We moved in with my mom after dad died 1 1/2 years ago and it seems like the chaos never ends. My siblings were all for it till the reality hit them that they couldn't continue to sponge money from mom all the time which cut into their income. I mean seriously my husband and myself have a nice nest egg built and own a home have two productive children who are doing ok. My sister has never been married and my brothers divorced from a drunk who does drugs with his two adult boys. He had them living with my parents for years and they were weedling money from my parents that whole time. I never asked for money from my parents yet was told by their financial advisor that it was normal for my parents to pull out huge sums of money every year to cover the so called loans to them all. Every last one comes by and does the sob story don't know how I can do this that or the other thing and hinting for money which my mom feels sorry for them and wAnts to fix whatever the issue is. My sister is the worst and my mom's favorite. Even the psychologist mom sees said that mom can't see anything wrong in the things they do. Mom is always saying I need to forgive my siblings placing the claim for the strained relationship on me. They treat my husband horribly and there's been many times I wonder how he could love me enough to put up with this crap. We have no respite without leaving people in charge who have no respect for us. My sister goes through my mom's things and I think she's taking things and my brother thinks he can do anything even though this is our home too right now. We have a home of our own which is filled with all the things you accumulate in a thirty year marriage raising two kids. We live here with mom because she refused to move to our home and it's really not a good place for her anyhow. Extreme temps, stairs, and it would be hard for her to get around. She also has memory issues which get much worse when she's not in her regular environment.
I'm so stressed that it's hard to function and do what needs to be done. My husband seems even worse. I would have walked away from this last July if I had known what I do now. We gave up retiring next year, lost a lot of money from moving here, gave up most of our assets just to make it and my family is still playing games with mom. I just am wishing this would end so I don't have to watch any more of this.