MIL lives out of state. SIL has been primary caretaker but MIL needs assisted living. Her memory is bad. We have been taking to her for months about making the move and we can’t get a consistent answer. We would be moving her from NC to NJ for assisted living to give my SIL a break. For 14 years my SIL has been the day to day contact, we get there about 3-4 times a year. Our problem is MIL’s memory, she does not remember agreeing one day, next day she agrees. It is inconsistent. We have the place all picked out and ready, gave her a virtual tour and speak to the director. A concern is if we go down and bring her back, she will refuse to go. I should add that MIL has always been a difficult person..if my husband and so fly down to get her we KNOW she will refuse to leave. If SIL brings her up, she will be down right mean and accusatory towards her. I feel bad for my SIL for she has dealt with this behavior for years and we are trying to reverse roles of caregivers so SIL can have some normalcy. Any suggestions on HOW to move her (and her belongings) after she has agreed and then changes her mind.