My mother came to live with me 3 years ago and we have had a happy time. She is 89 and has been, until recently, very independent. She recently developed problems with swallowing, and ultimately had to get a peg tube to receive nutrition. After this, she went down quite a bit, as her nutrition was not optimal despite our best efforts. She ended up being hospitalized and then moved to a two week rehabilitation hospital. They have determined that she will need to remain on the tube feeding indefinitely. We have struggled with feedings at home. Now they want to tube feed her by pump overnight. I work full time, and I am concerned that she will not be able to toilet by herself at night. She is frail, but has shown a little improvement while in rehab. We are about 4 days into the two week stay, and I am at a loss as to whether I can care for her physiclally if she comes home. I have daytime help for when I work, but no evening/ nightime help. Funds are limited. Does anyone have any thoughts on this. I DO NOT want to put her somewhere before it is the right time to do so. I am just unsure as to if we have reached that time or not. I am so emotionally close to the situation that I just don't trust my judgement. In my heart of hearts I want to care for her as long as I can. I am just unsure as to my ability to do so anymore.