For over a year I have been dealing with my 86 year old mom wetting herself because she claims either she doesn't want to bother anyone to go or she doesn't know when she has to go. Personally, I don't believe either her but she does have dementia. When I am really upset with her, she asks me to go all day long. I am only home on Sundays, I work about 65 - 70 hours a week and she has caregivers when I am not home. She claims she is wet because either she is to lazy, or she doesn't want to bother anyone. However, she does know how upsets it gets me cuz I know she knows when she has to go. I was considering a catheter so she isn't sitting in wet all the time. But I am not sure if that is the right choice. Please help me determine when the time is right for this. When people ask her if she has to go, she gets mads and says "I will tell you when" but she never does. I am really frustrated with this and do not not to be upset with her anymore. My patience is really wearing thin with this, any suggestions will help and be appreciated.