In the almost 2 years since my mother died every single time I call my dad and tell him im coming over or im going to the store he asks for something ,, then he asks for things after I already bring him things. Yesterday when I asked if he wanted me to bring something he said "no". that's a first .. and he seems to have quit eating much at all. Even his orange juice or milk he doesn't seem to care about. Im beginning to think this is coming to a swift end. The nurse that saw him on Tuesday night mentioned Hospice in passing ie. "Well they wont call in hospice unless he loses significant weight but hes the kind of guy that's going to find food anyway he can". I thought that was an odd statement. Is he saying that because of the cost? because hospice care is covered and this private in home care is out of pocket? was he saying it because he doesn't think my dad has much time? We were talking about costs of care givers so maybe it was the expense issue. Im not sure, wish I had been able to put it together at the time and ask why he mentioned hospice. but all in all, i'm watching my dad shut out the world,, basically just shut down period.