My mom and stepdad have been together 35 + years and still live in a house. They have been getting in-home care 9 hours a day M-F since February. My stepsisters who live nearby have been helping them on the weekends with medications and meals. I live in a different state but regularly call my mom, the in-home care providers and my stepsisters. Recently my moms belligerent behavior and outbursts have caused a couple of her care providers to quit. And my stepsisters think my mom is verbally abusive to their dad. We have already adjusted her medication a couple of times over the last several months and it seems to help initially and then she goes back to the same behavior. Recently she and her husband were in a grocery store with the caregiver who would not let her buy a bottle of wine (it doesn’t go well with her meds). So she picked up the bottle and smashed it on the ground. She also recently had trouble determining what order to put on her clothes. Her husband has Parkinson’s and some indications of dementia. She clings to him it is definitely very codependent. So he never gets any time away from her and is probably exhausted mentally and physically by her. We all agree it feels like it’s time to put her in memory care. But I always thought that her husband would go with her because they’ve been together so long and there’s still a lot of love there. But the stepsisters want her to go by herself and they will move their dad in with one of them. This is made so much more difficult because of Covid since none of us will be able to truly visit her for what could be several months before there’s a vaccine. It makes me sad to think she will be in there for Christmas. So my question is, should we wait until the new year? Should we wait until there’s a vaccine? Or should we hope for the best and put her in memory care now? Without Covid, I think we would all agree to put her in memory care now. Thanks for your suggestions.