When no medicine prescribed works; what did you do?

I am not clinically trained, I can just share what two neurologists told me about my cousin. His dementia was diagnosed 5 years before he died, at the onset he refused to take the Aricept, thought he didn't need it. His ego interfered with his common sense. Fast forward 4 years later and me taking him to the neurologist's, both told me the same thing, no meds will help the dementia, he is too far gone, they did give him an anti-depressant which he did take. He spent his last two years in MC, he adjusted well. There is more to this story, like the time he escaped 1 day after he had major surgery, he walked right past the nurses station at 3am, guess who they called, me. We found him a few blocks down, he said he was looking for a cigarette. Geesh! After he was released, he way placed in MC!

Perhaps a geriatric psychiatrist would be better able to help you. Some people have had their loved one spend a short time at a geriatric psychiatric facility in order to get their medications sorted out and get them stable enough to return to their former home.

My Mom does not want to put him in a home because it would be a financial burden on her and on me and my sister. I am hoping that the neurologist can come up with a solution just to keep him calm but not sedated. Thank you for your help. It is nice to find others with the same problems to talk to.

When my mother became combative and aggressive I began looking for a facility. I did not want to put her, my family or myself at risk of injury. Of course she didn’t want to go and blamed me constantly for it. But, I was at peace with myself because I knew I had done the right thing.