Karsten, I have read the sooner the better. It is much easier for the dementia patient to move in before their dementia is too far down the path. The patient feels more comfortable when they are able to find their way around, learn the Staff, find the dining room, and have the ability to make new friends.
There are some wonderful Assisted Living/Memory Care facilities, but these are self-pay, so it would all depend if Dad can budget for such a cost. If Dad doesn't have the retirement money to pay for Assisted Living, then he would need to sign up for Medicaid [which is different form Medicare] to which Medicaid will pay for all his care in a nursing home.
My own Mom refused to leave her house. Then she had a terrible fall and spent her final months in long-term-care. After she passed, Dad was more than ready to move out of their house. At 94 he felt he was too old to keep up the maintenance. Once in Independent Living, he was happy as a clam. Sold his house, those worries were gone. Eventually Dad moved within the facility to Memory Care.
Karsten, This is where I'm at with my mom with dementia. She lives in a little ranch house that she had lived in for 55 years. She does not use the oven but still microwaves t.v. dinners. I dole out pills 2 x a day. So far it's working for us. She fell last year and she did not do well in rehab nursing home. As soon as she walked in the door of her own home, she actually became better. I'm just in "waiting on the fall" mode now. Just wanted you to know your not alone. Hang in there! It's crazy how much new meds.and home has made her happier. I was against depakote and anti depressants but now i see those pills as little miracles.
I am wondering if it would be better to wait until he has no idea where he is anyway, then move him. Of course, I am not a professional in these matters. But right now he would miss being home. Maybe in a year he woudlnt know the difference
What are you being medically advised? Is he at a stage where he should wait until his situation progresses and he would be more compliant or would he be better off to be moved now?
My concern with my Alzheimers dad, who is 92, he has lived in the same house for 60 years. Its all he knows now. I am afraid being in a strange new environment would totally freak him out.
A little more information about your situation would help people respond. For example, is (s)he living in his/her own home with you helping them, is (s)he living in your home with you as caregiver, what are the issues you are having right now?
However I agree with ff -once you are thinking about it, it is probably the right time.
Brenda, the right time is when you are asking others "when is the right time". If you are feeling totally overwhelmed, ready to crash and burn, start looking at Assisted Living/Memory Care if that is in your budget range.
There are some wonderful Assisted Living/Memory Care facilities, but these are self-pay, so it would all depend if Dad can budget for such a cost. If Dad doesn't have the retirement money to pay for Assisted Living, then he would need to sign up for Medicaid [which is different form Medicare] to which Medicaid will pay for all his care in a nursing home.
My own Mom refused to leave her house. Then she had a terrible fall and spent her final months in long-term-care. After she passed, Dad was more than ready to move out of their house. At 94 he felt he was too old to keep up the maintenance. Once in Independent Living, he was happy as a clam. Sold his house, those worries were gone. Eventually Dad moved within the facility to Memory Care.
This is where I'm at with my mom with dementia. She lives in a little ranch house that she had lived in for 55 years. She does not use the oven but still microwaves t.v. dinners. I dole out pills 2 x a day. So far it's working for us. She fell last year and she did not do well in rehab nursing home. As soon as she walked in the door of her own home, she actually became better. I'm just in "waiting on the fall" mode now. Just wanted you to know your not alone. Hang in there! It's crazy how much new meds.and home has made her happier. I was against depakote and anti depressants but now i see those pills as little miracles.
Is he at a stage where he should wait until his situation progresses and he would be more compliant or would he be better off to be moved now?
However I agree with ff -once you are thinking about it, it is probably the right time.