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We really need more info. Why do you think elder abuse is involved. You will get a more precise answer.
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Siblings don't decide what's elder abuse and what isn't. The law in whatever state the elder lives in decides that.

Let me ask you something. Are you the caregiver sibling? Sadly, all to many times there's one sibling bearing the whole burden of the elder's needs while the others do nothing but offer criticism.

I was an in-home caregiver for 25 years before going into the business of it. I was also a caregiver to my abusively needy mother who has a lifetime of untreated and misdiagnosed mental illness.

So, I'm going to tell you straight. What criticizing do-nothing siblings consider elder abuse usually isn't. If the caregiver puts the elder in their place and gives them a telling off when they have it coming, that is not elder abuse. Not allowing an elder to berate, belittle, or bully you because they're old and needy is not elder abuse. Making the elder pay for their own things, and rent (if they live with you), and clean up after themselves is not elder abuse. Refusing to be a servant waiting on them hand and foot is not elder abuse. Not including the elder in all of your plans and being their social life isn't either.

Here are some forms of elder abuse. LITERALLY stealing their money. Not they think you're stealing because they're out-of-it, but really stealing. This is a crime across the board.

Not allowing the elder to see people or communicate (phone calls, texts, online chats) with other people. Refusing to be their social life, is not abuse.

Physical violence or threats. Not being willing to fight with or coax them for several hours to get them washed up or a diaper changed when there's a full load onboard, and just forcing them is not abuse.

Not putting out three Michelin-star worthy meals a day because they demand it is not elder abuse. Refusing them adequate food and drink is.

Ignoring them when you need to and refusing to fight with them, is not elder abuse. Neglecting their welfare and safety if you are responsible for them is.
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ANY misappropriation of funds would be Financial Elder Abuse.
Any Verbal, Physical or Psychological abuse by anyone not just a sibling.
Obviously Verbal abuse is yelling, bullying, berating, threats
Physical abuse would be inappropriately putting hands on someone. Hitting, grabbing, poking,
Psychological abuse could be isolation, threats as indicated above
If there is ANY question if something is abuse or not report to your States Elder Abuse hotline number and let the people trained to investigate such things do what they do.
They would also take into account living conditions if the place where your LO is living is not safe that would be a concern.
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I find that siblings are as individual as their own thumbprints, so it likely varies a bit what they would lable as "abuse"; why not ask the sibling this question so as to get your answer from "the horse's mouth"?
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Are you referring to physical? Emotional? Neglect? Financial abuse?

Report elder as a vulnerable adult to APS. But if your sibling is the "gatekeeper" to your elder, then expect the relationship to change, and you possibly be "frozen out" of visits.

If you can give us more details for context, we can give you strategies that may avoid having to report APS:

Is it your sibling or your elder's sibling?

Details about the vulnerable elder: cognitive and physical issues?

Who is elder living with? WHo is the caregiver? Who is the PoA (if anyone)?

What type of abuse are you concerned about?
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