My mom is 99 and has refused to go into any kind of asst. care. She has dementia and it's getting worse. I'm her primary care giver and gave her the option to get in home care or go into a facility. I gave up a job and home to care for her but didn't realize how hard it would be. She has no medical issues so she isn't nursing home material. So when do you insist on putting your parents in a facility, how bad or needy do they have to be?