My brother and sis in law have been caring for my dad, but he's begun fighting their every efforts. He doesn't have dementia but is becoming more forgetful. He has to be on oxygen or he get's confused. He's fallen twice in the last month, and it's hard to get him up. He's overweight and refuses to use his walker.
He can do much for himself, but the Oxygen and fighting with my brother and sis in law (something new) and falling makes me wonder if he wouldn't be turned down now for an independant living situation. If we had to place him somewhere I'm afraid it would have to be a nursing home and that would kill him.
Also, once in a nursing home, how hard is it to get him out to transfer him to another if he's physically able to travel? If he goes into a nursing home in Texas and is totally miserable, I might want to transfer him from that home to a home near me that I know does a good job but is 8 hours away from Texas.