I moved out of state to care for my parent with Alzheimer's. I've been here nearly a year, to the detriment of my own family and my mental health. My LO is paranoid, angry, convinced by my sibling that I am out to get all of our parents' money/stuff. That couldn't be further from the truth. I am the one who discovered the sibling moved all the income to his own name and wants things from the house as "gifts" so these things don't count against his inheritance. He has turned the parent against me, and no amount of documentation or reasoning works. I am POA and guardian. There is a restraining order against the sibling (which LO doesn't comprehend) which the courts here will not enforce. It is violated weekly.
I'm not looking for appreciation, I just want to stop being falsely blamed for everything. I'm thinking assisted living NOW, even though LO can still do yard work, laundry, make a breakfast and lunch. LO falls weekly and cannot live alone. I had hoped to delay assisted living until more pronounced cognitive decline. I asked the internist to tell me when it is time, and he said, "Whenever you feel you need to go home." I'm not a martyr-just trying to do the right thing. I get lots of encouragement from this group. Please give me the rational for your answers, and thanks in advance.