My mom 84+ w/dementia and a host of other medical, ADL limits and psychological issues, previously lived in my house for 22 years, with me doing the one-on-one care for about last 4 years when her health declined. Before that she was independent and lived with me, my hubby and kids. She was moved to a wonderful nursing home (NH) following a 2-week hospital stay and has been at the NH for about a year now. The nursing home placement is now permanent, although she has not yet adjusted to being there.
I packed up most of her clothing and personal items; lots of things she really cannot use now: high heels, lots of cheap costume jewelry and things like old bathing suits (LOL who saves their old bathing suits?). Mom's dementia is probably middle stage, sometimes she is with it and can articulate her needs, and other times she is on planet Mars. She can get very confused and is easily upset. I do no want to ask her about her things -- frankly it is nearly impossible to discuss much of anything with her -- and I do no want to set her off which she is prone to do.
So my question is what have others done? What is a reasonable time after entering a nursing home permanently that one should consider giving away a parent's usable items to charity? There really is nothing of any value. And if she needed anything (new clothing, shoes, personal items) I am happy to purchase new items that work for her now. Having a hard time knowing when to take the boxed items to charity.