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He will say I don't want talk about it or I did not say that or remember that then deny saying things.

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Adding to above, it is difficult for someone with dementia to sort through a complex question. Their brain isn't working well. Often, simple yes/no questions are the best. I know for my MIL we couldn't ask where does it hurt --- we had to say does your head hurt AND point to her head at the same time. And then go through the likely places where she traditionally had issues.
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He could be trying to conceal his memory loss by claiming he never said that, etc.

Or he really might not remember! Dementia is like that.
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So, Sherbear, your dad has dementia, correct?

Often, dementia patients DON'T remember saying things; he may in fact not understand what you're talking about. I found that when speaking to my mom, who had vascular dementia, I had to slow down and speak clearly and use fewer words.

One more thing. Discussing emotional things that are in the past? Probably not a good idea.
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What sort of subjects are you trying to discuss with him when this happens?
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