I was just wondering something, and hoping you all could give me your advice. My mom (79, with moderate stage dementia) more often then not cries and asks me for help doing ADL's.
Part of me wants to step in and assist her with these basic things. It hurts me to refuse her. However, I've been warned against "babying" her, and have been told that I should encourage her to do as much on her own as she possibly can.
When I do not help her, she does manage to complete her task (getting dressed, for example.) But she does seem to be suffering, and as I said, it hurts to do nothing.
My question is, when do you think I should step-in? Am I doing the right thing by continuing to have her try to do these things on her own?
Thank you for helping.