When can I say "enough is enough" and take my mom to a care center?
I am her only caregiver, and I love her to death. But, I also have to work full time, and having someone come in and stay with her all day is not in the budget. My sister lives in my mom's house, many states away. The house should be condemned due to the hoarding that my sister has. Mom lives with me, and is unable to do anything but watch tv all day. She doesn't want to move off the couch, walk, bathe, anything! She is very grumpy and goes and pouts in her room if she doesn't like what I am saying. She only want's to go to "the Parks". (we live in Florida)
Mom came to live with me before her dementia got bad. We used to go to the parks once a week. She could drive her little scooter, and we had a great time. I am also disabled, so we were both in our scooters. What a pair of silly girls! We had so much fun. Now she is unable to drive her scooter, and I am unable to push her in a wheelchair.
I think in a care center she would truly have more of a life. I recently spent a few weeks myself in a rehab for surgery, and met quite a few people that mom would have fun with. The activities would be great.
The biggest part of my problem is that my sister can't afford to live in an apartment due to her low income. I can't kick her out of Mom's house and mom can't live there.
I am about at the end of my rope. What should I do?? I feel selfish saying I want to have a life of my own, yet, I do. I was a single mom, and now I am a single caregiver. When is it ok to say it's time for my life to start?
Please don't yell at me, I feel like a selfish jerk, but I also don't want to live anymore if this is how my life is going to be.