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Ask his primary to send physical and/or occupational therapy. They will examine him for possible locations for pain and get him up and moving.

Check his toenails and his shoes. Pay attention to his ability to chew and swallow. Weigh him and keep up with his hydration. Juicy fruits and veggies. Check his BP sitting and standing. He may be getting dizzy and is afraid of falling.

If he gets hungry, serve him at the table so he has to get up to eat. If he isn’t peeing every two or three hours while he is awake he is most likely dehydrated. Don’t push water so much as things that contain water.
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More info for context would be helpful.

Your profile says you’ve been caregiving parents most of your life.

Does your Dad have health or cognitive issues? Hearing loss?
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Dad may need antidepressants. Speak to his doctor about that possibility.
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When this happens you discuss it with him.
You ask:
1. "Dad, I notice you aren't moving around much. Are you having pain? Is it more difficult to walk? Would you feel better if someone walked with you?"
2. You ask Dad "What's up, Dad? You seem a bit quiet. Is there anything you need help with? Would you like to talk".

In otherwords you question your dad. We, you see, are absolute strangers, and you've given us here one sentence. It's difficult for us to do a whole lot with that.

I will caution you that for some at a certain age life is simply too hard, and is exhausting. They are ready for a comfy chair, a cat on the lap and a good book, a fun TV program, or a glass of wine. My own father, early 90s, told me he had had a wonderful life, and was grateful, but he was exhausted and just wanted his last long nap. No depression. Just tired. I am 83 and as I approach his age I more and more understand this that he and many of my patients admitted to me. It becomes a achy pain in the neck sometimes. And you wonder exactly what you are hanging around for. The kids are raised. The job is over. You aren't contributing much anymore. You are tired. You are ready.
Your Dad may be ready.
Whatever the case is, talk to him, listen to him and don't negate what he feels; be his loving support. If he says he's ready to go then tell him you would miss him but would thinking of him all the time for the rest of your life.

Good luck. Have a nice talk.
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We need more information. Does Dad suffer from Dementia. What type of health problems does he have? Do you live with him or him with you? Does he live on his own?
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