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My mom pees way more than she drinks. She is not incontinent, but every hour she has to pee and then she soaks through the pull-ups plus the extra pad I put in 2 times, once during the night and again by morning. I have to do laundry every day because of this. Does anyone know of an insert or diaper doubler that actually works? I am new to caregiving and hating every minute of it.

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Dear Miscoulter, please don't be so upset about some people answers. I have noted too not everybody is nice. Some caregivers are arrogant, some of them even angry,some of them not too kind. Just ignore them.! We all have very difficult time caring of our parents or spouses. My husband is 64 years old, he has Dementia for 4 years and i have nobody to help me, his sister and his daughter absolutely don't care about him.I am so angry on them, they are not human been. I don't know what to do in future, he has no Medicaid and no saving bank account. I hope i will find the way out. We need to be strong to survive! Take care of your self, please! Hug you.Support you.
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I did thank those who were most helpful individually, but in case I missed someone, here is my public thanks for your suggestions. I am not used to having to get up in the middle of the night and I walk around all day feeling sleep deprived. I am late in getting my own medical care because of this responsibility that was thrust upon me. I have no siblings willing to share this. It is not like my mom was any kind of great mother either. Aside from raising me, there was no help offered ever once I was an adult. I raised 2 children and made all the sacrifices expected of me at that time. Now, I was hoping to retire and enjoy life, but instead I am stuck because my conscience will not permit me to place her in a nursing home, even though that is where my grandmother ended up. I have seen what goes on there. My mother is extremely narcissistic, demanding, and selfish. Other caregivers who have come here to offer PT, OT and limited aide services tell me they have never seen another daughter hang in for so long with a mother like mine. When she was in rehab I was there every day and was told I was the only child who visited a parent every day. I saw very few other visitors there. Some patients had personal aides there, but very few had any family members coming in with regularity. Some of you have judged me based on the question I asked and I think that is unfair, especially since this is supposed to be a support group. All I really wanted was suggestions on products that work better than what I have tried. Don't bother responding as I am done with this so-called support group. Talk amongst yourselves!
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It can be overactive bladder. See her doctor.
A caregiver doesn't really get the entire night off (in my opinion), hence the term "24/7" just ask the people on this site. Do you ever get up to urinate after bedtime and before getting up in the morning? Well, mom needs help to do that, like you said. Set an alarm and assist her. Looking for ways to convenience oneself (it is okay to find ways to make your life easier) so that mom has to sleep overnight in a wet bed would not be acceptable for my patient.
Then, there is INTAKE AND OUTPUT, to be measured. Find out how, because if it is true she excretes more water than intake, she will quickly become dehydrated.
Find out how, you are new to caregiving. You have a lot to learn if you are going to survive as a caregiver. Requiring your patient not to pee too much overnight
because it inconveniences you to change the sheets won't get anyone happy.
So, choose: buy more products to absorb more pee, change sheets in the mornings so you can sleep overnight; OR, wake up and help her.
P.S. There are medications to treat over-active bladder, it is common, again, check with the doctor.
Now, don't give up yet just because this is hard. The issue can be temporary. Some of the biggest complainers have turned out to be some of the best caregivers! You may not know unless you try. That is what this site is for: vent, get support, get differing opinions, etc. What is good: You asked the question because you already knew something was not working! Be sure to thank your fellow caregivers because that will go a long way on here. Good luck.
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For all the people who tried to help you here may I say, "You're welcome."
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I guess I didn't give enough information. My mom is blind and recovering from double hip replacements. She cannot go to a commode or bathroom without assistance because, she cannot pull her pants down and up again even though she has been shown how to. I am waiting to install grab bars for her that should help, but being blind, even in your own home has its perils, especially after a long stay in the rehab. Someone has to assist her. I do use washable bed pads, but she goes through 2 per night, even with me getting up to take her once during the night. Nadin144 really gave the best answer. I am looking for products that will work overnight and hopefully eliminate the need for me to get up or have to do laundry every day. She knows when she has to go and gives enough warning to get there in time with assistance, though it is frequent. She is not incontinent, but is too disabled to do it on her own.
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You've tried everything. If it's not her medication, not a urinary tract infection...if extra pads don't work...if she can't make it to a bedside commode, then you're doing the best you can. So put a plastic tablecloth from the dollar store under her sheets and change the sheets every morning. Buy a disposable pad to go under her to help in some small way to wick the urine away.

You might also consider buying a vinyl mattress like 2 inches thick to go over the regular one and not use sheets. Just use the disposable pad. I did that with mom and used a Clorox wipe on the vinyl pad every day.
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Just one more idea. If you put a potty chair next to her bed, could she make it to that in time?
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Hi, my husband has the same situation, he doesn't use the toilet anymore, he just pees on his depends. I use Overnight disposable absorbent underwear for him
by TRANQUILITY , they have very good product and they work. You can buy on Amazon or directly from they company. Good luck!
or directly from the company. Good luck!
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news BUT incontinent means no voluntary control over bladder for both urination and defecation..

If she's not making it to the toilet and wets her pants then she's incontinent...

It happens to a lot of people when they age.. Especially us women!!

If I sneeze I better be crossing my legs and squeezing tight..Or they'll be leakage.. LOL
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mscoulter, people can get liquids from all different food sources besides just water. Soups, fruits, veggies, lettuce, meat, and even bread.

Sounds like your Mom has a sensitive bladder, where just turning over in bed will make it feel like she has to go to the bathroom. I have that problem if I sit too longer in front of a computer, as soon as I stand up I have to make a mad dash and hope I get there in time :P
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Thank you, but the problem is only overnight. I can't be getting up every hour to help her to the toilet. She is not incontinent. I need a diaper pad in combination with the pull-up type diaper that will hold overnight. I have tried inserting menstrual pads, serenity pads, poise pads, and the inserts they sell at the local homecare supplies store. None of these last more than 4 hours in combination with a maximum protection pull up diaper. Her blood pressure is checked regularly and is fine. She does not take diuretics except for a cup of coffee during the day. She was treated for UTI and recovered, but will be checked again at next visit. This problem is always, not just when she had a UTI. She avoids drinking water and drinks watered down juices in small amounts instead.
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You might try inserting a menstrual pad in the briefs so that you would only have to change THAT instead of the whole brief.

If she's peeing in her pants, she's incontinent, MSCoulter.

If it were my mom, I'd pull out my blood pressure cuff and check her blood pressure to see if it's uncharacteristically low. Then call her doctor, assuming it was low, and ask for a recommendation on decreasing her diuretic. I might also have her checked for a urinary tract infection.

I'll give you the thought I gave myself when caring for my mom -- I wonder how many diapers mom changed for me. The circle of life.

Hang in there.
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