My friend has no short term memory. She can't remember the details of a phone conversation as soon as she gets off the phone. She will ask the same questions over and over and tells the same stories over and over. It seems that lately she is talking to herself all the time. She can't remember to take her meds or eat meals without several reminders, and if I'm not here she doesn't do either. I go to all her medical appointments with her (at her doctors' request) as she cannot remember her medical history and her doctors are not confident that she will remember and carry out their instructions. The Registry has taken her driver's license upon the doctor's recommendation. She has forgotten things on the stove and no longer is able to manage her finances without supervision and assistance. I have also found that she doesn't seem to be bathing or changing her clothes without an occasional reminder. Her room is a complete disaster even though she spends everyday in it "sorting and organizing". Everything - mail, credit cards, and other important/valuable items - never to be seen again. One day a week I am gone for as many as 12 hours, and on that day I have someone come in to spend the day with her. Of course she finds this insulting and insists that she does not need a "babysitter" and promises that she will not even use the stove when she is alone. I am so torn! I want to respect her and allow her her dignity, but the house is mine and I do worry about what might happen if she is left alone for too long. She is still able to present very well in public, though it seems to be more of a struggle than it has been in the past. How do I know what stage she is at in the dementia process and how do I know what's safe?