He has begun wandering. I took a leave of absence for 4 wks to find suitable daycare for him. I was able to find a wonderful, affordable memory care place so I could go back to work. He was in the program with the people saying what a wonderful person he is. Over the last week he has been balking when we drive up and he is to get out and go in. We had been telling him that he was not part of the program but a volunteer to help with the program. Not sure what happened as he even said what nice people they were. That was all he ever said about being there. They asked him to come back and he said sure. Today when I dropped him off I was told that they were releasing him from their program. They said that 4 of the ladies complained of improper advances towards them. They also said that they had thought that he was going to have a fight with one of the men in the program. Truly, this conduct is not tolerated, and I get that. So, I have just applied for another LOA from work to try again to find a place for him to go. As you all must know, memory is not his friend. He wants to go home, which would be about 600 miles away, IF his mother or any other part of his family were still alive. He remembers none of it happening. There is really no one here to help me. His son is 600 miles away where Mom used to live. He and my children don't get along, more like gasoline and a lit match, BOOM!
so, here I am trying to hold things together, sort of. I have been reading what you all have expressed and, yeah, that's me too. It is good to know there are others out there. I have one good book The 36 Hour Day, by Nancy L. Mace, M.A. and Peter V. Rabins, M.D, M.P.H that I suggest to anyone. It's given me a lot of insight. I would go to my church for help, but due to Covid it had to close it's doors, so here I am. I am happy for ANY advice you may have. Thanks