What would you expect out of a good memory care facility?

Once a month, I bring in treats for the Memory Care staff. I include a card, mentioning my mother’s name, my name, and how thankful I am for their care.

Something else you can do, is email the Administration with the name of a caregiver, and how that person particularly helped your loved one. At my mother’s MC, this is printed out , and put next to the time clock.

The better we take care of the caregivers, the better care they give.

It's normal for them to say not to come around for a couple of weeks so the person can get acclimated to their new environment.
If the residents look and smell clean in the MC area of the facility, then that is a good indicator that the place is run properly and residents are getting decent care. Always check out the memory care part of a facility because that's how you can tell.
Get friendly with the CNA staff too. These are the people who do the actual patient care in the facility. When you're friendly with them, they keep an extra eye on your loved one. Sometimes you have to grease the wheel a little bit with them. I'm sure you know what I mean.
Also, visit often once the two-week waiting period is up and do so at different times if possible. The residents of a nursing home who have family visiting regularly tend to get better care.

I too don't agree with the 2 week thing for the same reason isthisreally real stated. I may wait a couple of days and when I did visit, keep it short.

MCs are just a step up from AL. The staff should know Dementias much better. But there won't be much difference in care and daily routine. It is lockdown so they won't wander. But like an AL they are not skilled nursing. There may come a time where MC is not enough.

I was with mom every step of the way throughout her transition into Memory Care. I was never asked to stay away for 2 weeks nor would I have complied with such a request. I'd help your grandfather get set up in the new place and then make his room comfy and cozy.

See if the MC has regular care conferences with you, what activities and outings are planned, menus, etc. See if they have a monthly calendar of daily events to look at. Ask about setting up docs to see him in house and if a mobile dentist comes in too. Ask about PT and if it's in house as well.

Good luck!

You know your loved one and need to decide if not visiting is really going to help. It is a request and you don't have to do that if you feel it will be detrimental to your loved one.

I was told the same thing and I didn't follow the request. I know my dad would have felt utterly abandoned and I couldn't do that to him.

This is a thread that lists some questions:

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/questions-to-ask-memory-care-facilities-before-placing-a-lo-470196.htm

Best wishes to you.

The not visiting for a few weeks is standard and is thought to help with adjustment, yes. It is very common.
The questions you ask when you meet with the admins is about staffing, how many caregivers to patients. You hopefully will be given a packet of information about care, about safety, falls preventions, security of the elder. You will ask if they contact you periodically (if you are POA) for care conferences or updates, or if you must call for those; if so whom do you call and when is best to do that. Ask about their careplans. Ask for a tour. That may trigger questions.
Questions normally arise in the future. Ask what methods are in place to have your questions addressed.