I am 58 and have been a caregiver to my husband that has pancreatic cancer (he is now 69) for almost 4 years and will soon be a caregiver to my mom 84. I also expect that after that I will be a caregiver to a friend who is now 70. I picture my life as being a caregiver until I am unable to do it anymore. I have no children so they cannot be my caregiver. My siblings - I would not want to burden them with my caregiving and I don't think they would be very good at it as they are not really helping with our mom at all. I am more conveniently located to help her as I work from home. I also have more of a caregiving mindset from taking care of my husband all these years. I have already planned to have her live here with me when it becomes neccessary. For now I just visit once a week to go over and do cleaning, shopping and repairs. The longer she can make it on her own the better - but it makes me feel better knowing I am prepared for what could happen with her such as a broken hip, etc.
I have been reading about euthanasia for myself in the future since there will probably be no one around to be a caregiver to me by then aside from nursing facilities. I have talked to friends in their 60's that plan to live in the same ALF they put family members in...but they are very social people and I can't imagine myself in that particular ALF.
I have plenty of time to plan ahead and shop around for an ALF but there is no place like home. I wish I could go like Jim's stepmother - after going to church - she died in her sleep at 90, at home, by herself - never needing any help at all. Maybe in 20 years they will pass a law allowing anyone over 80 to choose the time, place, and method if euthanasia is allowed by then. So my choice for Future Care would be not needing any at all and if I do - I want to plan well in advance what that care would be like and if I reach a point where I can no longer take care of myself - please put that euthanasia button next to my bed in my own home.
Press 1 to talk, press 2 to turn on the TV and press 9 to end it all. :)