After spending all day caring for my 94-year-old Mom, I go home and deal with my husband's memory issues. I feel like I am losing it.
My husband is 70 years old. Two years ago, I said something to his (and my) internist that I had a concern about his memory. Apparently, the doctor didn't see an issue since my husband made a comment to me about it one day. Since then, it has gotten worse. He asks me the same question two and three times in a matter of minutes. I say things that I shouldn't, like: "You just asked me that!" or "You have asked me that 3 times already!" To that he will either ask me again anyway, or he will say that he is just "verifying" (which is his way of saying he doesn't remember asking or what I said). There is also a look on his face sometimes that I can't explain, like he is insecure.
I texted him the other day and explained that something I ordered from Home Depot would be delivered to the store the next day. He called me to say he didn't understand. So, I explained it to him. He said then that he understood. Two hours later he replied to my text: "Okie dokie," as if we hadn't talked on the phone about it.
I know that I don't always remember things, but if someone says, "Yeah, you told me that," I will remember the conversation, and say, "Oh that's right." (It's not like I don't have other things on my mind, plus I don't sleep well with all that is going on.) My husband never says he remembers asking me anything.
I have told my husband that I am concerned about his short-term memory. He says nothing. He used to play football, and I am sure he has had concussions. But, he brushes it off. He is the kind of person who thinks, 'whatever happens, happens.' I fear that when Mom passes, I will have more to deal with at home.
I have researched the signs of dementia, which all seem to point to having issues paying bills, getting lost, frustration with technology, etc. as the first signs. We pay bills separately, but I see no signs of him forgetting that. He hasn't gotten lost while driving, though he has lost his money clip twice in the past 6 months (still hasn't found it!). He has always had issues with technology, so that hasn't changed.
What were the first signs that you noticed something was wrong with your loved one's memory (besides the normal age-related issues)?