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I just went through the battle with my Mother and I know just how bad, emotional and draining this can be on a person to see there loved one go down hill. It was all left to me to do. I recently met through a friend a man that is my age (56). His Mother is in very bad condition and of course the same, his family has pushed it all on him. I was lucky that Mom had funds to cover her help but he is not in that situation. Anyone that has gone through this can't help but get emotional when they find someone fighting the battle with their loved one. I though she might be illegal but I found out today that she is legal. I'm doing my best to help him. He is single trying to raise a teenager by himself and now his mother. From what I understand he works a day job and then its nothing for him to work side jobs at night. His boss covers for him all the time, I understand in most cases he goes on 2 hours of sleep a day just trying to make a good life for his son and Mother. I live in the State of Texas and I have been in touch with the Alzheimer's association. I'm digging on the internet to find any resources or help that I can get for him and his mother but I have found during my Mom's battle the best place for information is to come to Aging Care. If anyone can guide me or help point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it, my heart goes out to this person.

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Aveeno, it's very kind of you to want to help this man, who clearly could use some support.

How old is his son? Can he help in some small way? Is your friend getting any support in the home? Is his mother getting Medicaid?

What advice did he get from the Alz. Assn?

I think if you could expand on specific needs (such as whether or not there's in-home care and what approximate stage his mother is, that might help provide more targeted answers.
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I will meet with him today to get the details and post them. I do know she does get medicade and the son is 13 not trying to be rude but in most cases your hands are full with a 13 year old boy. I met Alan through a friend. Alan works all the time not only a full time job but doing side work just trying to keep his family going. He is replacing my tile. Alzheimer's assoc said to fill out the forms so before he starts on the tile I told him we will fill out the forms first There is a slight language barrier but we can get this done. From what I understand he has been going through this for several years and most times takes his mom to work and locks her in a vacant apartment and has her clean. He is maintance for apartments and the whole building is loaded with cameras so thats good. I just know how hard it was on me and I did not have any of these issues!! I just can't imagine what and how he must feel. When I explained there were people to help he actually had big tears in his eyes!! I was told the story by my friend. So I will get more details today. Thanks I knew Incould get answers here. After going through this everyone becomes an extended family. This just broke my heart, I canmt imagine people being so mean!! His brother is married and they have the capability to take care of her but the same happened to me. I wonder how people can live with themselves on choices not to help and care.
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