I live with my 89-year old father. I am the Durable and Healthcare POA. We established Joint Tenancy about a year ago after my mother passed away two years ago. My father can take care of himself as far as bathing, getting dressed and fixing his own meals. He can drive short distances. He does have memory issues and dizziness from a concussion 4 years ago. He was intoxicated at the time and has a history of alcoholism.
The main problem is his hostility, agitation, and anger management issues. He expects me to take him on drives and to restaurants. His behavior in public is becoming a real problem. He thinks that everyone wants to hear his jokes and interrupts other diners and if I ask him to refrain he becomes verbally abusive to me and makes a scene in public. The other day, he told a joke about obesity to a diner who was overweight and they were not amused, and a restaurant employee was ready to kick us out. I am not sure if I want to go anywhere with him but he expects me to. He will not have a civil discussion about laying down any ground rules and goes into a rage if I press the issue. He also refuses to take advantage of any senior activities that are available. But since he lacks social etiquette, I doubt that he would last very long. He feels that he does not have to follow any rules if he doesn't understand or disagrees with them. This is becoming a very toxic situation for me and my own physical and mental health.