My mom is 83 and currently on week 6 in a rehab and nursing home following a stroke. She has made progress, but it is very unlikely that she will ever be able to live independently again. (She lived alone prior to the stroke.) She is not demented, is fully grounded in reality, EXCEPT when it comes to her physical limitations. She insists she'll be fine once she gets home and refuses to have an aide. No matter how many times anyone (me, relatives, PT, SW, etc) tries to get through to her, she says that's ridiculous. It's getting worse and worse. Yesterday she told me she is miserable and feels like she's in prison. I totally understand, but what can I do? She often blames me for keeping her there.
At the family meeting two weeks ago, they said they were extending her rehab until the 28th of this month and will keep extending it as long as she continues to progress. Well, the 28th is coming up soon and my mom is determined to leave then, which is not going to happen. I don't even want to attend the next meeting because she's going to be so upset. I'm her only child, so I can't really let someone go in my place.
I know this is a common situation and I feel awful, just awful, every time I leave her there, knowing how miserable she is. Even if she was open to home care (which she isn't), that's not an option for now because she needs two people to transfer her.
I'm not even sure it's good for either one of us for me to visit, since all we do is go around and around and around.