So my grandma ended up with a broken hip at the end of July and also needed a pacemaker installed, which is why she fell in the first place.
She's been in a medical facility for about 2 months now and it's getting extremely expensive, $270 a day. Skilled therapy will not accept her again even though restorative therapy (which isn't a reason for her Medicare to pick up the tab like they would for skilled therapy) says she's doing better and she is. Skilled therapy said after 20 days that she was "recovered" and no longer needed their services. At the time she couldn't even walk the distance of the room on her own.
A big problem is that she lacks motivation, big time. My mother and I are trying to get her to see why this is so important but it just goes over her head. We really believe that some dementia is setting in which is why she belches loud over and over in the room she's in that she shares with another person so it's not like she's alone when she does this. We showed her the bill the other day and she looks at it for a while, threatens to walk home (how?? lol), and that's it. Her sister that she was living with is 80 and I don't think she's going to be able to care for her if she's not able to at least care a bit for herself. It's hard to say what she is capable of because the medical care covers their own butts by making sure a CNA is always there to help her get up and transfer herself. She has been caught transferring herself from the bed to wheelchair and even off toilet to wheelchair but then the nurses yell at her because of it which is understandable but at the same time the family doesn't know if they're capable of going home or not.
She's really not able to stay in our home either, we really have no room and it's not set up for that sort of disability. Medicaid isn't even really an option right now because of all the paper trails they'd look at when applying. So my mother and I have decided to put her into an adult foster care home. We mentioned this to her yesterday and didn't seem to care so essentially no input from her on the idea. It would be much much cheaper to stay there and she'd still get cared for by someone in the business for years and is BBB accredited. But at the same time they do have a few pets and she doesn't seem to take as well to pets as some because of breathing issues. But we must get her out this week before the bills get any higher from that place. We're visiting several AFCs in the area and one was really nice but more expensive but also has no openings at the moment either. We're planning on checking out another one today and apparently it's a bit cheaper than the other one but that's depending if they have room and conditions of the place.
As far as the medical care, that bill in itself would wipe out 3/4s of her money so that's why it's imperative we get her out now and into someplace cheaper. I'm just concerned because that house we live in has grandma's name on it but we've also been on the deed for 10+ years, both my mom and I, and it's been our lifetime home. So I'm worried about any of them trying to step in and either put a lien on it or do something to screw us over. Mom and I have very little money and almost no savings of our own so we're scrambling in what to do. Grandma has had two doctors sign a paper saying that she's incapable of making her own decisions now even though for the most part she still seems quite sane but when it comes to making important decisions, it's like she'd rather someone else do it and so she doesn't have to think about it. Even though she's been listed with it, none of the doctors have figured out how this dementia even works. She seems to have gotten a lot better since having the pacemaker installed as in a lot more lively and alert but as far as decision making, she's as useless as using a feather as a paperweight. She'd rather sit there and talk about the clouds outside or someone working on the building across the street.
So we just have no clue where to turn to. My mother yelled at grandma's sister because she's been opening up grandma's bills to show her. Since the bills come to her address, rather than her giving them to us and letting us decide if she needs to see them or not, she takes it upon herself to open them up. Grandma really couldn't care less about them at this point and it's obvious. Her sister just wants to snoop at them. We're certain she's thrilled over this because she always complained whenever my grandma would give us any sort of money for anything. But now she's acting like a child because my mom yelled at her over this incident and it was in a public place, despite the sister having no problems belittling my mom and I in public, but that's when it's funny. I'm kind of derailing the subject here but because grandma has "lived" with her sister for four years before this, nobody knew what it was like to live with her.