As some of you know, I've been clearing out Mom's things as she moves to IL/AL. And some items have been difficult to get rid of.
I am the oldest. My parents divorced when I was 3. Mom married "Dad" who was really my step-dad. They had 5 more kids that I babysat A LOT. I never saw my real father. Mom did keep a few items from her first marriage but I grew up with the rule that we NEVER talk about that time. In fact, I've found items from her first marriage I never knew existed.
Fast forward to now and I have her framed wedding bouquet from the marriage to my bio-dad which she gave to me about 10 years ago. (I did reconnect with him after about 35 years). I am not close to him or to my Mom. But I'm the one that has stepped in to take care of Mom since my step-dad died and she had her stroke.
At one point, the bouquet meant something to me. Now that I'm seeing Mom's true personality, her selfishness and manipulation of people, I no longer want it. No other family members want it.