I have a question-my parents are still in their home..my mom is 82 with dementia, but not to the point she needs to go into a facility..in fact she still drives to the grocery store. My dad takes her out for date night once a week and she has a “strong” whiskey and water and a glass of wine. She gets drunk off these two drinks. I’ve told her the drinking needs to stop and she tells me there’s no point in living if she can’t have a drink three times a week. She gets very upset and there’s lots of screaming and yelling on her part. Well the last two times my parents went out she got violent in the car while he was driving. Hitting him, slapping, scratching him while he’s driving to the point he’s swerving and he ends up bleeding. Last night he called me very upset. He wondered about calling 911 the next time it happens, but changed his mind because he doesn’t want her to have police record because he’s afraid it might affect their insurance. I don’t know enough about this, but that couldn’t affect their long term insurance or supplemental insurance in any way could it? We are at our wits end and it’s getting worse with her. If we called adult protective services, what would they do? Their house is filthy which once had been gorgeous. She doesn’t care and says they don’t entertain anymore what difference does it make. You can’t talk to her about that either. I’ve even tried to clean their house and she gets mad. How do I convince her that the house needs to be cleaned? How do we control the violence? I would love to have the police called because I’m hoping they would put her in the hospital and finally diagnose her. We’re at a loss!