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My mother passed away in November. So my sister has nobody to hide behind anymore. My dad knows how she is. She is bold enough to tell family members she’s waiting for my dad to croak cause she wants his brand new van. Sick sick sick. I tried to reconcile with her but she’s on drugs. She tried saying I’m on drugs. Nice try. Not. Any input would be appreciated.


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Just read your reply to me. So sorry about ur girls.
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I decided to change my cell phone number. I hope that helps.
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I would think 20 year olds would know how their Aunt is. My girls,bat that age, were very aware of how their passive-aggressive Grandmother was. Maybe Dad should have a talk with your kids.
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Their dads were never in their lives. I talked to A Famous Psychic her name is Tiffany. She’s been on all the famous Ghostshows. Ghost Adventures, And she works with Chip Coffey too. I paid for a reading & I was blown away. My moms message to me was that my psycho sister has sticky fingers. And has a terrible attitude. And a drug problem. She told me to stay away from her. But she’s proud of me. My kids know all this but they all do drugs together. So I’m the odd ball I guess & a easy target. So they think.
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No I live alone. My children are in their 20’s & know better. So that is on them. Like I said she doesn’t have my mom to hide behind any more. And my dad won’t deal with any of it. I will go no contact for good. She doesn’t have any friends at all. Or a job. Nothing. Cause she is nothing. My life will go on . That woman needs Jesus!
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If you are living with Dad, your children, and sister, this will be quite the challenge. How old are your children, and are they living with you?

My advice was going to be to let you know how distance and going 'no contact' can work, and give you peace.

After one year of no contact with a highly toxic person, a family member came to say to me: "She said this about you".
I was able to say that, "After a year of not ever talking to her, how would she know?". The gossip no longer held any power.
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Exactly
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If she's turning your children against you, you stop allowing her to contact them.   Now.
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I’ve tried. Idk what she does or says to get them to listen to her. But there at that age . And they do drugs together.
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I think toxic people tend to not change because lack of awareness that they have any issue is part of the overall dysfunction. It is usually difficult or even unlikely to reconcile in ways that are healthy and mutually beneficial. The option we are left with usually means we back away from them, do not interact, no answering calls or messages, and start making plans without that person being part of it. You care for your dad on your terms alone, and no coordinating with your sibling. This might not be what you wanted to hear, but the old saying about not being able to change others is true. However, you do get to decide how much of her dysfunction you allow in your life.
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I choose not to allow none of it
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There is nothing whatsoever that you can do with/for/about someone toxic, other than to keep your distance. Stay away from her. Do not speak about her. Do not allow others to speak to you about her. The end.
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I agree.
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