Every time I try to throw something stupid away she digs it out of the trash and gets upset. I try to do away with things when she is sleeping but she always seems to find stuff even if it is going through the garbage ARGGGG. How can I get rid of clutter without her getting upset. She even has drugs and eyedrops, etc. from 2001 that I have thrown out telling her it is not safe and she still digs it out of the garbage.
I think you need to put boundaries up, in a loving way. Tell her you love her but you won't help if she continues to do things that are dangerous to her health and yours for that matter. It's never easy, and she will pout and try to make things harder but you have to have thick skin when she is mean .
My brother has power of attorney, but I do most of the caregiving because I'm not working. If my mom falls or anything she has a fit because she knows I will tell my brother. She actually has been really rude to me the last month because of this. I just ignore her. The only time she has been nice to me is if I take her out. But that's ok, I honestly don't care anymore, she can pout be snotty, rude all she wants. I know what I'm doing is right and she needs to get over it or OH WELL.
Going outside well your sleeping is dangerous for her I'm sure, going through the garage is even more dangerous, unsanitary and unhealthy, for her and you. Living around garbage is unhealthy too.
Good luck roger