My brother is claiming everything that was left in survivorship to my mother. My mother is in the last stage of dementia and I am the POA/Caregiver. After the passing of my dad 4 months ago, I brought my mom home to live with me and my husband. My mother stated before her rapid decline to sell the house and gift grandchildren some money. I am willing to do just that. My brother is feeling that he is entitled to what my dad worked so hard for and has already taken vehicles and other expensive items that hasn't been paid for. There is a will to split everything 3 ways. My sister preceeded us in death so her son's will get her 3rd. I have yet to get anything from the estate. It is being said to get some funds from the sale of the house. Take care of my mother, pay off bills, pre-arrange my mom's services and put what is left in a trust until my mom's death. My brother is not able or responsible enough to care for himself. He is a drunk, addicted to drugs and fighting cancer again. He is no longer welcomed at my home because of the total dissrepect he has for me and my husband. He only calls to check on mom when he needs something. Should I feel quilty for paying myself for taking care of my mom? I have put my life on hold with my own health issues. My relatives-her sisters, brothers, grandchildren are saying to don't worry about my brother. I'm doing an excellent job at taking care of my mom.
Am I the only one going through this situation?