There are three daughters here. One is mentally fragile (somewhat compounded by the above issue) and cared for the parents for 8 years. The other two are sisters now taking their 'turn' - as it should be. However, the parents, who are living in assisted living. are now in danger. Dad drinks/takes meds and still drives (should not be - we have done everything except steal keys to stop it. He would just get new ones made.) Mom is totally dependent upon him; mostly stays in wheelchair; has mobility/mental/slight dementia issues. No short-term memory for my Mom due to past treatments. Dad so deeply in debt his assisted living let him give notice to 'move somewhere he can afford it' - which, if given proper monetary advice from a third party, it would not be an issue. He is very angry and defensive even when lovingly confronted with this. My Mother is at a very high risk for falls (last one was this year) and will be left alone if Dad takes her away to live elsewhere. We are not on his POA.. Kind of glad we're not b/c of financial issues, but it severely limits us otherwise. Thoughts?