When mom first got diagnosed with dementia, she said she wanted me and my dad to make decisions on her behalf. She had an attorney draft a Power of Attorney and elected us, but never signed it. She has always refused to sign the POA because she felt she would be giving up her independence, now almost 2 years later, her memory is declining and now she has paranoia, delusions etc, and think that me and my dad are out to get her. Her dementia is so bad now she can't remember getting her worker comp checks and says my dad takes her checks because she doesn't remember cashing them. I took her to the bank and the bank confirmed to her that she cashed them all herself. They gave her a printout of all checks with her signature on them and she still won't believe the bank nor us. We have tried to get workers comp to direct deposit them but they said they can't.
Because of this she's considering making someone else who she always said she didn't want them to make decisions on her behalf. Shes gravitating towards the people who cater to her dementia and tell her what she wants to hear. I know if she was in her right mind she would never make anyone but me and my dad POA.
I know if we file for joint conservatorship she probably will contest. I handle all of her affairs and help her with everything, ever since she's been diagnosed.
Do any of you have any suggestions on how to handle this situation?