My father is 89 and in a nursing home. He is in the rehab. part and is considered short term at this time. He is in a wheelchair right now and has early dementia. I am having a very difficult time with him being in a nursing home and probably having to go long term. I don't know how to get better care for him. I complain about something almost every day and they only respond to requests if I am there. Seems like the care is very poor unless I complain.
Today I had to complain that he had been wearing the same clothes for three days. He was in a polo shirt that was dirty. I would think at night before bed they would take his shirt off. Also I believe three days of the same clothes is not okay. He has an air mattress. They don't put sheets on the mattress and when we said he wanted sheets they said they don't have sheets for this type of bed. Today I complained again and a different nurse made the bed with sheets with no problem. I visited yesterday and he was covered with a king sized quilt that was old and dirty. I told them it wasn't his and he said it was donated to the facility. I asked that they only use the blanket I brought in and hospital blankets. The blanket they had on him looked filthy. They removed the blanket and bought in a hospital blanket. I asked that any new medications be approved by family as I don't want him drugged up. the last two days when I have visited he can barely stay awake and looks very tired and flat. I asked if he was on any new medication and they told me they had been giving him sleeping pills because he can't sleep. The reason he went downhill was because he had delirum then a seizure caused by medication. Ativan and sleep meds. They tell me that he is confused sometimes and needs 24 care because of safety issues and that he shouldn't come to live with me unless I can provide 24 care, yet then they say he is competent to decide if he wants the same meds. that put him in the hospital. I have bought him many new clothes while he is there and they all end up stained and ruined or lost. I have already called the administrator at the hospital to complain that the medicaid director told me that I could afford to place him in a private facility. This is when I went to ask her about medicaid and his options. They think I am a pain at this facility, am I expecting too much and making too much of all this? Do all nursing homes run like this? Each nurse I complain to blames it on the previous shift.