My mother has dementia and a UTI. Every morning she asks me for "just another little white pill" referring to her Ativan. I usually give her one, then she is back in a few minutes asking for another. I tell her I just gave her one. She knows, but she wants another. She starts saying please in a begging voice until I finally have to get really forceful with my NO. Then I feel bad because I raised my voice.
A little bit later, the scene replays. She says she wants it because she has to go to the bathroom too often. I know that Ativan wouldn't do a thing to help that. I am coming to realize that she may have a fear of death, since she knows it will be soon. I'm not able to reach her spiritually, since she is so shut inside herself. The begging is creating a whole new level of stress in an already stressful situation.
I know one of the first suggestions will be an automated pillbox, so thought I would mention that it wouldn't work. I'm trying to think of a way to reach her through conversation, but I don't know if there is a way. Maybe the only way is to keep doing what I'm doing. I wish she would accept a quiet no and not keep begging under I have to raise my voice.