Dad is 80 and Mom is 85. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 6 months ago, she is in need of a hip replacement, but won’t undergo surgery because she’s too afraid with her diagnosis of Pulmonary Fibrosis from a year ago. She is on oxygen 24/7. She is in “excruciating pain” daily and therefore doesn’t move from her chair, except to use the bathroom and return to bed a few times during the day. Also, she is going blind quickly, with her recent diagnosis of Macular Degeneration and a stroke in one eye, too. Sometimes she remembers her medication, sometimes not. My Dad says “I told her to take it and she must have forgot!” “She won’t listen to me.” He is not attentive to her completely. He is also forgetful, a severe diabetic, and dealing with a not-so-successful knee replacement from a year ago. He keeps his head above water, just enough to care for himself, for the most part. How do my siblings and I help my Mom without insulting my Dad, his care is not sufficient. I feel like my hands are tied and it’s horrible to just sit back and watch this unfold. Yes some of us visit them while in Florida, but that doesn’t help for their daily needs.