My father died a few years ago, shortly after that my mother sold their home & moved into a ret. community. After a couple years there, she had a fire & was taken to the ER and transferred to a 'rehabilitation' home. According to what my parents always told me, and docs I saw when my father was still living, I was their POA. At this time, I contacted her lawyer to ask for copies of POA. He informed me he 'couldn't find it'. Prior to not knowing I couldn't get a copy of the POA, I had signed her papers & listed myself as POA - the facility requested a copy of POA and I told them I was working on it - because I was! Fast forward: whatever copies existed disappeared when my mother had the fire. The facility was used to dealing with me as her 'person' and I was always able to speak with them, etc. At this time, Medicare was paying for her care and I was paying her bills out of her main acct. Her checking acct. had ME listed as a co signor and the bank confirmed I was able to write checks, etc. After a few months in the facility, my mother was strong enough to move to asst.living. *She had been diagnosed w/Dementia at the facility. After discussing her situation with the Social Worker, it was evident she had been suffering w/mild Dementia for a couple of years. My aunt took her to the bank and she discovered a savings acct. with quite a bit of money in it - I believe it was the proceeds from the sale of their house. They called me from the bank and asked if I had known about this acct and I said No, I had no idea! I knew she had money somewhere but I only had access to the 'joint' account that I was listed on. The rep from the bank told me she wanted to send me a signature card, but my mother insisted that she would take care of getting my signature. Well, I never saw a signature card - nor did I see one for the Safety Deposit box she opened that week as well. Fast forward: while my mother was in asst living, she paid her rent and there were bills coming to my address, which I paid - some unpaid - mostly medical because there was insurance. She deteriorated quickly and was taken back to the hospital and then the nursing facility. With her permission, I began paying the facility out of her savings account. I would give the billing coordinator the account # and she would run a payment through. A friend of mine who happens to be a lawyer, told me regardless of her wishes, that I should NOT be paying her bills - he told me that I would eventually get in trouble - he warned me that facilities like the one she was living at were ruthless and would come after ME if a bill was unpaid. Well, they did - they sued my mother and me after I refused to pay a past due: they refused to show me detailed billing. The billing I HAD seen, had many errors on it that were corrected w/my prompting. My mother was running out of money -she was transferred to another facility, a Medicaid facility, and in the process of working with them to get her on Medicaid, a lawyer from one of those elder care groups took over her finances. I was so relieved - until the lady working on the paperwork at the facility accused me of spending my mothers money on things that were not approved - these things were specifically bought on my mothers instruction - as she had no way of buying gifts, she instructed me to buy certain things for a new baby in the family and I did - there were a few other items purchased on her credit card that she approved and were 'reimbursements' for money that my husband and I spent on her for supplies, etc. When I was accused of this, my mother told them that she had given me permission and to leave me alone - she felt as if they were attacking me for no reason. They apparently dropped the issue as I have never heard about it again - I had also paid the other home a good portion of what was owed them, and I never heard from them again. My mother passed away last Oct. and just prior to that, she called to tell me she had found my dad's will - she had it with her all along. It names me as Executor - my sister (who I had tried to work w/all along but constantly fought me) took the will when she cleaned out my mom's room - she refused to send it to me. The only thing I have are photographs of the pages. She told me she would not send it to me until "I took care of a few things" - which means: sign title of my mom's car (which my sister was in possession of and abandoned) to her, empty her safety dep box - neither of which I can DO without the WILL - I have cut my sister out of my life because she is so toxic - I have questions: mom never filed taxes from the time my dad died until she died - and I never had any paperwork other than a few bills and one checking acct. statements - mom was never able to furnish any old papers! I'm worried that the govt. will come after ME for any unpaid taxes - I wouldn't know where to begin! I paid a few of her bills and that is it - I have no will, nothing - what to do? Am I liable for anything?