Assisted liv residence require doing an assessment, what do you do if your parent is unable to get there for the assessment? Alternatives? Apparently an assessment of the resident is required for assisted living. In the event we are able to convince my mother to even go, her mobility is extremely limited. What are our alternatives? Secondly, if we cant convince her, is our only alternative to turn to the state for help? Incompetent? There is no way she is capable of living on her own, she has degenerative disk disease, her knees are basically bone on bone, she has afib, and is very overweight as well as a 30+ year chain smoker. She no longer can even make it to the restroom at night, because her legs just don't work. Her hygiene is deplorable, not having bathed in over 3 years. We have tried having outside sources com in to help with bathing, etc, she refuses it. We have to do something! My brother is living with her now, 24/7, but NEEDS to work. She is insistent on staying in her home. A live, and at home health care is not an option in her current location. We need help desperately. Thank you for any guidance you may be able to give.