My Mother has a series of health problems, COPD, scoliosis which has curved her spine, and vascular dementia, along with other age related problems. She falls a lot and needs to have someone around. She is alert and aware, but has memory issues. Currently she is living in a group home with five other ladies. Two residents just moved in, one, with Alzheimer's and one with advanced dementia. She does not get along with them and complains about them often. My mother has a temper and can easily get angry but has never been physical with any one at the group home. Yesterday she had an argument with one of the new residents over kleenex. She picked a box of kleenex up from another resident's side table and took it back to her chair. Then she began walking to the dining room. The newer resident (with Dementia) followed her to confront her for taking them. My mother began yelling at her - at this point the resident (who is larger and more mobile) grabbed and pulled my mother's hair! The fight was broken up and they are taking steps to make sure this doesn't happen again. Video was reviewed and a report has been made. Although she wasn't seriously injured I am upset that it happened and worried for her - she could have been hurt. I have been told that she started it by yelling and getting in the other woman's face. I feel like the home staff are blaming my mom for this happening.
The home is comfortable and clean and for the most part very nice. The owner really seems to care about the residents. Mom has said she still wants to stay there and didn't even want to talk about the incident with me. Having her with me is not a good option, but money is limited. I have been to so many places that are either too expensive or just awful. I want to do what is right for her.
Has anyone ever had an experience like this? If so, what did you do? I am keeping her there for now and monitoring the situation. I also am considering having her see the doctor for medication as she has been getting increasingly agitated and angry. She doesn't have a UTI, and is not ill at the moment. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I want to do what is best for her and protect her but I suspect that this happens in other places too - even with caregivers at home and I am overwhelmed.