I am literally racing the clock to find a group/nursing facility to place my mom, who will be 88 in 2 weeks. She's now in a nursing care facility as of May 18, but no longer Medicare covered since 6/26..The bill is mounting and she has no resources to pay that. I've appealed 3 times for an unsafe discharge as she's very frail, can't use walker/dress/bathe/cook w/o assistance. Won the first two appeals but lost the third. They're keeping her there until a decision is made as to where she'll go. She finally qualified today for ALTCS (Medicaid) after weeks of filling out forms, phone calls, etc etc...I did get help in finding two nice group homes very close to my home so that I could visit her more often. I should explain that I am disabled and not physically able to give her the level of care needed. The problem I face is to place her in a group home where they will keep all but $108 of her social security income each month for payment of care. With that said, I could no longer pay her bills starting this month (July) I'd have to hurry and pack up her home by myself and sell the home within 30 days. She owns her home but pays rent for the lot it sits on. Or she can go home and have in-home care for 4 hours per day, 5 days per week, Medicaid funded. She would be able to keep her soc. sec. income and no lien on her home would be placed. I'd still go over and do what I can...bring meals, help with bathing, laundry... a couple times per week.... My husband & I can take her to doctor appointments, buy her groceries, etc..This is what we've done for her up until she became ill but realize she shouldn't be alone for so many hours per day. She's now mulling over what she wants to do. I've always promised her (and my dad before he passed) that I'd take care of her and never put her in nursing care.. She was very independent when dad passed in '90' and has been up until 5 years ago when she fell and broke her hip, then other hip a year later...We've taken care of her for the past 5 years but our health is declining. I don't have siblings to help with her care or make decisions. This is such a difficult decision for me...do I let her go home with limited care and be happy in her home...even though there are risks involved...or place her in a group home where I fear it will break her heart and mine. I do have another question...Can the state place a lien on mom's home if she goes into a Medicaid approved group home...I am a co-owner on the title and have no idea...If sold, I wanted to pay off her creditors, nursing home, and hospital bills with the proceeds.Thanks to anyone who has read this through, I do appreciate it.