My 83 year old mother refuses to talk about any planning at all for what to do in case she requires long term care. She gets very angry about this. My brother and I have both tried to approach her. She refuses to talk about any financial planning and will not do a quit claim, or even deem us to have power of attorney if she becomes unable to care for herself . She says that we are after our inheritance and says that she will live alone and will never want our help. Or she says that she feels that it is wrong to worry about the future.
I know it doesn't seem like it, but we've always had a close relationship. My brother and I have tried for years to talk about the subject and the response has always been the same.
We are very willing to come and care for her one day in her own home if she'd like. But the home and her farm will never be in our name. Would it be taken away from her to pay for expenses even if we are living with her to care for her?