My mother, who at 94 has been in a nursing home for 5 1/2 years, often asks "how long has it been since Dad died?" and when told, she says it doesn't seem that long. Some days she mentions how much she misses him, and likes to look at a picture album my sister and I have made. She's bedridden, very hard-of-hearing, and with quite severe memory loss but has been that way for a long time. We have no plans to take her out, etc. for Mother's Day (and haven't for several years) as this would be completely impractical considering that she is so weak that if/when she slouches in a wheel chair, she is incapable of pushing herself back up. However, I'm wondering if we should "talk up" Mother's Day while visiting (cards, flowers, etc.) and not mention this "anniversary" unless she brings it up or makes the connection, or if we should be somewhat more proactive about the greater significance (at least to our family) of that day. It's possible that she won't even be aware of Mother's Day unless told, and may not even ask the date (or if so, she might not immediately recognize the additional significance of it). This obviously isn't the most important or urgent posting here, but I just wondered if anyone has any thoughts or has had to deal with a similar situation. For lack of a more appropriate category, I've put this into "Senior Activities".