My 85 y/o mother fell recently(again) My sister, an LPN lives with her and is her legal medical advisor. The will has been changed since the orginal will that was done before my father passed away 5 years ago.. My sister is now inheirting everything .The original will everything had been divided equally between the 4 children.After my mom's fall, the sister opted to treat her with pain meds, and oxygen. I live out of state. A week later she sent me an e-mail, because my brother told her too. (He meant for her to tell me about the fall and the will changes, My sister took my mom to family doctor after a week; sent me an e-mail about the fall and they had good news; the x-rays showed no broken bones? I sent her an e-mail asking why she waited a week, she said mom didn't want to go to ER and that she had to respect her wishes!! My Mom fell 4 years ago while I was there visiting and she didn't want to go to ER then either. I loaded her up into the car, and took her anyway. She needed alot of stitches in her head, and kept her overnight for observation. I also asked my siter in that e-mail if doctor (small rural town) had requested an MRI. The MRI done when I was there shows she had been having mini strokes, No,MRI was ordered only PT. The sister does not want a repeat MRI ,because I'm sure she actually does know enough, that it would probably void all the new wills. Questions I have are: 1. What are laws regarding taking an elderly parent to ER against their will? I've thought of talking to my mom's doctor and telling her my sister gave her pain pills (from who knows where?) and oxygen? and waited a week for her to be seen. I would also be able to express my concerns about her mental stability. My mother is very hostile and agressive with me when I spoke with her on the phone. I'm sure she thought I knew about the will changes, when I was simply calling to talk about her fall and to see how she was doing. I'm very upset with lots of things...my mom's treatment towards me, (which started after my father died. My mom always thought I loved him more) and which also intensified when my sister moved in to her house, My sister whom is over 50 never liked me because in her words I was thinner, prettier and people liked me better. I have never done or said anything bad to her. The last time I was visiting my mom, my sister got so angry with me, she grabed me by thwe throat and was shaking me up and down. I left not saying anthing to her, The next day she came to see my mom, so in front of my mom, I said in a regular voice, that if you ever touch me againthat I would call the police. amy mom, said" You would do that to your own sister"? I know if I talk with her doctor, social workers etc. will become involved, with the possibility of my sister losing her job. I think there is the potential of her killing my mother. ( not intentionally) but due to an over elaluation of her knowledge,(in my opinion.) My mom wants to stayin her home, and is obviously is happy with her care and the caretaker. That would all change I'm sure if I( talked with her doctor) My mother let me know I had lots of wrong information, no, she didn't buy my sister a car ( In my sisters e-mail , she said she paid her back?) she never co-signed a $40,000 loan for my sister to pay back her credit card bills; but then she did remember the back calling her about the money? My 85 y/o mother just finished paying off the loan. No, she never paid off the morgage of the sisters boyfriends property when it was going into foreclosure (she was living with him, and there was never any paperwork) So, my mother told me we were all treated the same in the will, ( so, all of these things are not true. All her anger was being directed at my brother who owes her over $100,000. She was yelling at me"I'll never see any of that money
" In my sisters e-mail that "they are coccerned about running out of money" My older brother who lives near their, saw my sisters name on the bank deposit slip on my moms table. I was thinking, well you could pay rent, you could start paying your loan I don't know. Just a thought. So, I did send my mom an e-mail requesting that my name be completely taken out of the will ( I think their are some stocks in my name..........I don't know because I've never seen it) I wrote I do not want anything from her, and all I had ever wanted was just her love. Of course. I've heard nothing from my mom. Meanwhile my older brother said the holy spirit visited him, and said my mother would die soon) The same thing happened before my father past away? Should I just let whatever is going to happen, happen? Neither of my brothers are talking with my mom . So.............that's my family and my situation? (There isn't really very much medically wrong with my mom. It bothers me that the sister talks so much to her about dying and her medications,etc.and then that's what my mom has to think about when she is home alone.all day. My mom still makes her own meals, does her own laundry, has a cleaning lady, and has a friend take her for goceries,PT etc..My sister can't really be doing all that much for her. She does work full time. What should I do?