My MIL does not speak English and I do not speak her language (portuguese). She is obese, immobile, and incontinent. She lives with one of her daughters and across the hall from another one of her daughters. Both of them are currently unemployed. The two daughters, my husband and my brother in-law had a meeting recently to agree to how my MIL should be cared for and the daughters said that they wanted to alternate full days on a rotation but that means that when my husband is working and he works 80 hour a week, I am taking on his day completely. Is this right? I feel like he is able to provide the financial part of the care and the daughters should provide the other care. Diapers and showers and all of that. I want to help but is it fair for me to be with her for full days while her daughter are right there at home too and I can’t even communicate with her?
My husband thinks I’m being dramatic and doesn’t understand the big deal. Please let me know if I’m wrong to think that they as her daughters should be doing the care and that I can help when needed and of coarse I want to help but just not equally to them.