I'm new to all of this. My sister is the only one elected as POA for my parents "because she is the oldest" and she doesn't want anyone else on it. I live near them, she is thousands of miles away working full time. I received previous advice on here that I should just let her handle everything and walk away, which I get, but there are multiple challenges: 1). Any decision she makes as POA will ultimately affect me, as I'll be the one here with my parents and stepping in when there is a crisis or a health issue. 2). I'm not sure if I can make emergency medical decisions if I'm with them and can't get ahold of her. I'm thinking I will have no authority and tried to explain this to my parents but she is telling them otherwise. 3). I don't necessarily trust her and def don't trust her fiance, as he is fighting hard to keep me out of everything, including writing checks or using their credit card to make purchases for them, as I will need to since sis won't be here.
Basically, sister will have power over everything but I will be here, having to pick up any balls she drops and having to communicate with her to get anything done, which I don't have time to do and don't want to deal with her toxicity.
I've googled around trying to find more information on this to show them so it's not just coming from me, but have only found articles with the basic information. Anyone have resources? Thanks in advance.