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My mother has been contacting all of our family about her being deserted and all alone and abandoned. She is NOT living with my father due to his illness (at another facility) and is frustrated about him not being there. (understandable). Her 3 children are providing a wonderful facility with nursing care and her own apartment.
She will not hardly engage any persons or leave the apartment but complains non stop about being alone. We call, visit and constantly provide but as soon as we leave she is alone and feels like its been weeks or months since she has seen us. We are frustrated, and running out of things to console her. This has been going on for 9 months. She is mostly angry and rarely happy or smiling and almost aways complaining about being bored and lonely. Last week we could not get her to visit my dad or go out of her apartment yet when we leave she starts the same complaints over the phone.

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Has she been screened for depression? Sometimes a low dose of antidepressants and/or antianxiety meds can do wonders at this stage.
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Cece, she has Alzheimer's; it is not possible for her to rationalize anything. As soon as you think you have calmed her, she will forget. The best thing to tell her on the phone is that you will see her later, or tomorrow. Do not tell her you were just there, as she doesn't remember it. I do this sort of therapeutic lying to my Mom often. Why just tonight after ahe had gone to bed, she came out looking for her father. He died in 1963, I think. So, I told Mom that we will see him in the morning. I do not remind her of things I know will hurt her. Had I told her that her father is dead, she would have become depressed and wondered what is wrong with her that she doesn't remember. I just tell her whatever will ease her mind, regardless. Did you know my sisters aren't here because they are on vacation on a sunny beach in Hawaii? ;)
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