My mother has been in her Memory Care for about 12 weeks. She has moderate dementia.
Her thyroid numbers are fine. She is already on an antidepressant and an anti anxiety Rx.
Before she went into the MC, she was absolutely terrified of the world around her. She was afraid of being alone, afraid of windows (convinced that someone was looking in at her), afraid of running out of money, afraid of trees, and on and on. At the MC, they have adjusted her prescriptions, because the terror continues, and because her OCD has gotten out of hand.
Mom will not participate in activities, and only leaves her room for meals. The dining room is twenty paces away. Then, it is right back to her room, shades drawn, and blankets pulled up to her nose.
The staff is kind, compassionate and caring. They can’t force her to join in with activities, or just to be out with other people. She refuses to have the sweet activities director come in and do individual activities with her.
Mom refuses to have the tv on any longer. Books, movies, music, listening to books being read, looking through old pictures...all get a firm “NO!” I understand that some of those things could be cognitively too difficult for her. Name a past-time of ANY kind, and the answer is the same. Just NO.
This is a beautiful new MC, with a low staff to resident ratio. I am FREQUENTLY in touch with various members of her care team. They are concerned about Mom’s terror and depression and anxiety, and have have referred her to their psychiatrist. That doc will see her, then give me a call.
What kinds of questions should I ask this doc? Anything I should be wary of? I don’t want her to be a zombie, but, I don’t want her to have to suffer this terror and anxiety, either.