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I don't feel like he is really at that point, but my husband does. I have a nurse coming in once a week to set up his meds (he has a machine that dispenses them 3 times a day) and she also checks his INR, and vitals. He is able to do all daily cares, bathing, dressing cooking etc... He has fallen twice while being out (he had too much to drink both times) I am pretty sure he will not be drinking again, he said he learned his lesson. My husband feels like he needs to be "watched" more. He is currently living with his grand-daughter, but she is not home much. I just don't know what to do. Keep him where he's at or move him to assisted living. I just don't see how assisted living will help any more than what we are doing right now. I would like an unbiased 3rd party opinion to help me out! Thanks in advance for your input. Also, he is Diabetic.

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Have you gotten your dad any medical alert system in case he were to fall at home when his granddaughter is not there? One of the reasons I like having my dad living in the ALF is they have a medical alert system that can detect a descent. When it gets to the point that he is a fall risk and cannot be left alone safely, then I would be looking into AL.
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"…fallen twice while out… had too much to drink…" This is my personal RED FLAG.

That's what my Dad appeared to be doing shortly before he died of a heart attack. For my sake if nothing else, please ask his doctor to check that he is not having TIAs. Please!
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What are your husband reasons for thinking that he DOES need AL? Does it have to do with the fact that you worry about him so much?
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Rhonda, I was just talking to my son in law about a home aid!!! I am definitely going to look into that. I know that my dad will not be too pleased with the idea, he really likes his independence. But if I could find the "right" one, that he liked, I think he would do well with that! I am going to do some more research on that and see what I can find out! Thank you everyone for the suggestions and comments. Keep them coming if you can think of anything else. It is really hard to have to be the so called responsible adult!! :)
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Have you ever though of getting a home aid to assist him. I looked in to this agency that specializes in providing personalized non-medical care for my mom. The nurse still comes over and does her assessment. However the agency sends over a home aid to my mom’s house and basically she stays with my mom all day and helps her with day to day activities around the house, they take walks and helps her with meals meds ext. And the best part of this, is that all the cost is covered under my moms long-term insurance. The agency is in Vienna ( ALM Health Services)
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Write down all the pro and con for living with the grand-daughter and for going to a retirement facility. Then ask Dad what he wants to do. And ask the grand-daughter how she feels taking care of her grandfather. They both might surprise you and say "assistant living".
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Well he goes out everyday and walks all over. He goes to the senior center about 4-5 times a week for different activities, and goes to senior dances about 4-6 times a month. It isn't a matter of him not socializing with other people, because he definitely does do that. One of the problems I am having with him moving is that it would take all of his money since he would need to go on assistance, and then he wouldn't have the $$ to go do some of the things he's enjoying now.
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I agree with FF, but also look at Independent Living facilities that offer medication management as an add on.The definition of AL and IL differ from state to state, so you really have to do research in your own area. Also, try to find a continuing care community that allows clients to stay as their care needs change.
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One positive note about being in a retirement home facility is that your Dad would be around people of his own age group.... look at all the new friends he would make... and all the activities that would keep him busy. Staying home hours on end by himself is terribly lonely and it does affect ones mind. It would be so much better for him to go now while he can still find his way around and bond with the Staff and the other residents.
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