My 90 yr. old DEAF FIL lives in an apartment not far from us. His only child, my husband, checks in with him every day for a lot of his needs (shopping, food prep,meds being monitored, laundry, etc). He has trouble moving and sleeps in his lift chair recliner and has a electric wheelchair for outings. He uses a walker to get to the bathroom and lately reduced the amount of times he showers. His mind is OK, being deaf his understanding is extremely limited. I posted this before in another question here. All this attention he needs is draining my husband and anyone who wants to help just can't communicate with him, including me. The doctor doesn't see these problems and tell us he won't get into a nursing home because he is able to care for himself. What are the reasons that a person will be admitted to a nursing home other than being in a hospital first. He won't go to an assisted home which we tried. Thanks to all.